Relationship Skills 101
- Patty StayWell
- Jun 26
- 4 min read
Updated: Jul 2
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If love feels confusing, painful, or hard to keep, this quick guide will help you understand where you are right now, and what to do to improve.

There are 7 levels of emotional maturity. Each level builds on the last. The good news? No matter where you’re starting, you can grow. You’re never stuck.
Take this as your starting point. Then grab the resources that match your level and start growing into the kind of person who attracts (and keeps) love that feels good.
To download the free quiz and see what level you are at, click here: https://modelpatty.com/product-page/relationship-skills-quiz
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LEVEL 0: Survival Mode (Victim Mindset)
“I feel stuck and powerless in love.”
At this stage, love feels unsafe. You may avoid relationships, or find yourself repeating painful ones. Emotions often control your choices. It can feel chaotic, lonely, or hopeless.
Your goal: Just become aware. You’re not broken — you’re just learning.
Focus on:
Noticing your patterns
Calming your nervous system
Learning that your feelings don’t define your worth
Helpful tools:
Positive Affirmation Cards – soothe your inner voice
Law of Assumption Workbook – shift out of fear
Channel the Divine Workbook – reconnect to guidance
StayWell Bundle – includes guided meditations & journaling
Therapy can be supportive at this stage
Keywords: victim mindset, chaos, reactivity, fear, confusion
LEVEL 1: Self-Awareness Begins (Creator Mindset)
“I’m realizing I have some patterns.”
You’re starting to notice your part in relationship struggles. Triggers and old fears are becoming clearer. You’re beginning your healing path.
Your goal: Get curious and stay compassionate with yourself.
Focus on:
Noticing how you respond in relationships
Taking responsibility (without shame)
Exploring inner work and personal growth
Helpful tools:
Positive Affirmation Cards – rewire your thoughts
Law of Assumption Workbook – train your mindset
Channel the Divine Workbook – connect to your higher self
StayWell Bundle – start self-care habits
Therapy or journaling can be powerful
Keywords: reflection, realization, emotional pain, beginning inner work
LEVEL 2: Healing & Self-Nurture
“I’m taking better care of myself.”
You’re building trust with yourself and setting small boundaries. You know you want something better, and you’re beginning to believe you deserve it.
Your goal: Learn to regulate your emotions and nurture your needs.
Focus on:
Self-soothing instead of reacting
Reparenting your inner child
Learning boundaries without guilt
Helpful tools:
Positive Affirmation Cards – practice emotional safety
StayWell Bundle – meditations for self-trust
Therapy or coaching can gently support this phase
Keywords: self-soothing, forgiveness, inner child work, boundaries
LEVEL 3: Activation & Discipline
“I’m setting new standards.”
You’re changing your habits, not just your thoughts. You’ve broken some old cycles and are becoming more emotionally stable and confident.
Your goal: Stay consistent and don’t settle.
Focus on:
Acting from your higher self, not your hurt self
Building habits that match your values
Staying clear even when it’s tempting to go backward
Helpful tools:
Positive Affirmation Cards – anchor new beliefs
ReWired PlayShop – build new identity and habits
Coaching can support consistency
Therapy may still be helpful if you’re unraveling deep-rooted trauma
Keywords: emotional control, discipline, high standards, new choices
LEVEL 4: Discernment & Balance
“I can tell what’s right for me.”
You’re grounded. You’ve built peace within and are no longer afraid to say no. You’re not desperate — you’re discerning.
Your goal: Protect your peace and make aligned decisions.
Focus on:
Choosing people who match your energy
Communicating clearly and calmly
Saying no quickly to what’s not right
Helpful tools:
Positive Affirmation Cards – keep your vibration high
Coaching is ideal if you’re ready to refine and expand
Keywords: emotional maturity, peace, clarity, self-trust
LEVEL 5: Magnetism & Purpose
“I know what I bring to the table.”
You’re glowing. You attract aligned partners and opportunities. Love feels easy, intentional, and exciting. You’ve stopped playing small.
Your goal: Lead with love, stay in your power, and keep expanding.
Focus on:
Being your full, unapologetic self
Living with purpose
Creating love from overflow, not need
Helpful tools:
Positive Affirmation Cards – amplify your magnetism
StayWell VIP – get weekly text support and guidance
Book a 1:1 Relationship Coaching Call – tailor support for your next level
Coaching is best at this stage for personalized refinement
Keywords: confidence, inner peace, embodiment, healthy love
LEVEL 6: Love Mode (Soulmate Energy)
“I’m in deep alignment and love.”
You feel whole — with or without a partner. Love is healthy, deep, and aligned. You’re living your purpose and your relationships reflect that.
Your goal: Keep nurturing your growth and share your wisdom.
Focus on:
Leading with service and integrity
Deepening your current love or calling in a soulmate
Building a legacy of love
Helpful tools:
Positive Affirmation Cards – stay centered
Book a 1:1 Relationship Coaching Call – for conscious expansion
Explore High-Level Mentorship – ongoing support and transformation
Internet Money PlayShop – monetize your wisdom & serve others
Keywords: divine union, unconditional love, inner wholeness, soulmate-level alignment
Ready to Begin?
Start where you are. There’s no “bad” level — only growth.
You’re already doing the inner work by reading this. Now go deeper:
You’re not too late. You’re right on time.
And you’re not alone — I’m here to help you rise.
With love,
Patty
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