Being high-value has nothing to do with how you look, how much money you have, or what kind of career you’re in. It’s not about status, education, or where you’re from.
Being high-value is about how you show up in this world, how you treat yourself and others, and the kind of energy you bring into a room. High-value people carry themselves with confidence, integrity, and a sense of purpose.
In this post, we’re going to break down six things high-value people never do and what you can start doing today to elevate yourself.
If you’d rather watch the full breakdown, check out my YouTube video here:
1. high-value people don’t apologize for things they don’t need to apologize for
A high-value person knows when an apology is necessary—and when it isn’t. They don’t say “sorry” for simply existing, having preferences, or setting boundaries.
They don’t apologize for:
• Doing their job
• Saying no to something they don’t want to do
• Expressing their thoughts or opinions
• Asking for what they need
For example, if a waiter brings them the wrong order, they don’t say, “I’m so sorry, but this isn’t what I ordered.” They simply say, “This isn’t what I ordered, can you fix it?” No guilt. No unnecessary apologies.
where people get stuck: Many people over-apologize because they fear being perceived as rude or difficult. But apologizing for things that don’t require an apology actually makes you seem less confident.
how do you move to the next level? Start catching yourself when you say “I’m sorry” unnecessarily. Instead of apologizing, replace it with gratitude or direct communication. Instead of saying, “I’m sorry for the inconvenience,” say, “Thanks for your help!”
2. high-value people don’t overshare personal information
High-value people don’t feel the need to tell everyone everything about their life. They don’t trauma-dump on strangers, and they don’t share intimate details with people who haven’t earned their trust.
They understand that not everyone is secure within themselves, and some people will use personal information against you—whether consciously or unconsciously.
where people get stuck: Some people overshare because they want to build connections fast. Others do it because they were raised in environments where oversharing was normal. But the problem is, when you give too much away too soon, you open yourself up to manipulation or unnecessary judgment.
how do you move to the next level? Be intentional with your words. Before sharing something personal, ask yourself, “Does this person need to know this? Have they earned my trust?” If not, keep it to yourself.
3. high-value people don’t argue just to be right
High-value people understand that winning an argument isn’t as important as understanding and being understood. They don’t waste energy yelling, insulting, or trying to prove a point just to stroke their ego.
Instead, they:
• Choose their battles wisely
• Stay calm and collected
• Focus on solutions rather than being “right”
• Listen to the other person’s perspective without taking offense
where people get stuck: Some people love the drama of arguing. They feel the need to “win” even if it damages their relationships. Others are so attached to their beliefs that they refuse to hear another perspective.
how do you move to the next level? Shift your mindset from proving your point to finding resolution. The next time you feel yourself getting defensive in a conversation, pause and ask yourself, “Am I arguing to win, or am I arguing to understand?”
4. high-value people don’t sacrifice their well-being to please others
People often mistake people-pleasing for kindness, but they are not the same thing. A high-value person is kind, but they also respect their own time, energy, and boundaries.
They don’t:
• Say yes when they really mean no
• Overextend themselves to make others happy
• Ignore their own needs just to avoid disappointing someone
where people get stuck: Many people are raised to be “people-pleasers,” believing that saying no makes them selfish. But in reality, sacrificing yourself for others often leads to resentment and burnout.
how do you move to the next level? Understand that setting boundaries is an act of self-respect. People will respect you more for saying no with confidence than for saying yes and feeling resentful.
5. high-value people don’t complain without taking action
A high-value person understands that complaining without action is useless. Instead of constantly talking about their problems, they find solutions.
If they don’t like their job, they:
• Look for a new job
• Start a side hustle
• Speak to their boss about a raise or promotion
If they don’t like their body, they:
• Learn about nutrition
• Work out consistently
• Take accountability for their health choices
where people get stuck: Many people stay stuck in victim mode, complaining about their circumstances without making real changes. They blame their past, their parents, or the government instead of taking control of their life.
(For the 6 steps to go from survival victim mode to God mode, check out this post: https://www.modelpatty.com/post/6-levels-from-survival-mode-to-god-mode)
how do you move to the next level? The next time you catch yourself complaining, stop and ask: “What can I do to change this?” If there’s no action to take, then there’s no point in complaining.
6. high-value people don’t fight over small amounts of money at the expense of big opportunities
High-value people have an abundant mindset. They don’t waste energy fighting over pocket change when they could be focusing on making real money.
They don’t:
• Spend hours arguing over a $5 refund
• Cheap out on valuable experiences or investments
• Underpay others to save a few dollars
Instead, they focus on the big picture—long-term wealth, financial stability, and creating opportunities that bring in more than what they could ever lose.
where people get stuck: Many people operate with a scarcity mindset, obsessing over small losses instead of focusing on how to create bigger wins.
how do you move to the next level? Start asking yourself, “Is this worth my energy?” If you wouldn’t care about this in a year, let it go and focus on bigger things.
which of these habits do you need to break?
Becoming high-value isn’t about how much money you have or how successful you look on the outside. It’s about how you carry yourself, protect your energy, and move through life with confidence and integrity.
Let me know in the comments—which of these habits do you need to work on?
want to work with me to level up faster? Check out my self-improvement resources here: modelpatty.com
if this resonated with you, don’t forget to check out my YouTube channel for more insights: https://youtube.com/@modelpatty
love you! Until next time. 💖
-Patty StayWell
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