5 *unhinged* red flags to look out for when dating men

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OK, let's talk about five unhinged red flags that you need to look out for when you are dating men.

Some of these red flags are going to sound kind of weird (that's why they're unhinged). Some of them may not make sense, but trust me… If you avoid these red flags, you have a 99% chance of meeting someone who's actually husband material.

*** disclaimer!!! this is feminine dating advice for those seeking healthy masculine men. If you like feminine men, then these red flags are actually green flags.

By the way, here's the video where I discuss this topic...

Let's get into it…

Unhinged Red Flag #1

He has a preference for plastic surgery on women. 🚩

Unless he's a plastic surgeon, he should not care whether a woman's body has plastic surgery or not.

A healthy man will be attracted to the woman who is confident in her skin and looks good. So he'll see a woman with fake body and find her attractive and he'll see a woman with real body and find her attractive. Most of the time, he can't even tell if a woman has gotten something done.

Keep in mind, most women could cut 5 inches off their hair and it would take 3-5 business days for their men to notice. So, if he's picky about body surgery, that's a red flag. If you're his type, you're his type. Period.

Healthy men don't necessarily have a preference for real or fake as long as he sees the woman is happy and she looks good. When he starts telling you things like "oh you'd look better with bigger lips or if you got a BBL like Kim..." that's a sign he's too feminine and he could be toxic in a relationship.

Healthy masculine men don't have that kind of attention to detail and desire to change the women that they're with. It shows that he's very susceptible to external beauty standards, and he cares more about what everyone else thinks about his woman than what he thinks.

Realistically, most men don't have as high standards as the "undercover woman haters" have. The men that low-key hate women are the ones who want to make women insecure and make women want to butcher their bodies and their self-esteem in order to get male validation.

If you desire to get plastic surgery done, do it because you have the burning desire to do it. Don't do it to try to attract your man... actually, wait until you meet him and then make your husband pay for it... like he should... LOL

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Unhinged Red Flag #2

He cares about fashion and jewelry. 🚩

Healthy masculine men are usually very very simple. They do not care so much about fashion and they definitely don't wear any jewelry besides their favorite watch and their wedding ring.

The types of men that are overly flashy and try to be fashionable and blingy are more feminine. The exception is men that work in the industry.

Ask yourself, why is he trying to get so much attention? Is he trying to impress women, or other men?

There's 2 reasons why a man will be driving a ferrari. Number 1: he likes it and can afford it... that's the green flag. Number 2: he wants to impress women or he wants to impress other men... those are the red flags.

Learn the difference between a man that is wealthy and a man that is flashy. Sometimes wealthy men are flashy, but those are usually the ones that use their flashiness to attract women that will tolerate low effort and cheating.

Make sure that his actions are aligned because a lot of these feminine men will spend all their money on flashy fashion and then cheap out when it comes to planning dates.

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Unhinged Red Flag #3

He uses social media on a regular basis. 🚩

Unless he's running a business that requires him to be active on social media, most healthy masculine men do not have time to have a real social media presence.

My man doesn't even have social media at all... His media consumption consists of hunting and fishing videos on YouTube...

If he's always updated on the latests trends, celebrity news, or he has the perfectly curated instagram feed that looks better than yours, he's too feminine for you.

Again, men that want to try to hard to look cool or attractive, usually do it to compensate for something else. Plus, do you want a husband that is going to tell you he's upset because his last post didn't get enough likes? EW!!!

Business is business, but vanity in men is a red flag. If he's more self conscious than you, he needs some help.

It is a healthy masculine man trait to be buried in his career and see social media as more of a way to talk to his friends from college or something like that.

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Unhinged Red Flag #4

He constantly complains about how past women used him for his money or betrayed him. 🚩

Men use complaints strategically. They want you to stop asking for so much, so they appeal to your nurturing nature and tell you how they've been played in the past. Or, they want to impress you, so they complain about how useful they've been in the past.

Healthy men usually wait a while before they talk about their exes, and even then, it's usually only if you ask. So if he's quick to bring it up constantly, he's setting you up to lower your expectations.

If he's complaining about how he was hurt in the past, that is his responsibility to heal. It is not your job to overcompensate for his past traumas. Be empathetic, but have clear boundaries and expectations for your relationship.

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Unhinged Red Flag #5

He is very jealous and controlling and he says it's because he "cares too much". 🚩

Jealousy and control comes from fear or insecurity. If a man is constantly stealing from other people, he will always be paranoid that people will steal from him.

Similarly, if a man has a pattern of cheating, he will have a pattern of being overly controlling and jealous in his relationships.

The ones that are the most controlling are usually the ones that need to be controlled the most. They do to others what they crave someone will do for them. Or, what they wish they could do for themselves.

When a healthy man cares about you, that comes with a certain level of trust that will only be broken if you do something to betray trust. Healthy men are very easy going when it comes to that. They will not try to control everything, they are confident in themselves and they will judge you based on your behavior.

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xoxo

Patty